Please pray

[Caroline1947]

Ladies,,,I did not realize how horrible the pain of losing my dear husband would be.Please pray for me.I just can't share with my family.They don't seem to "get it".All I get is critisism for not snapping out of it.It's not just the losing him,it's losing the home we shared for 21 years and having to leave it all and start a whole new life.I just want my old one back. I feel like my heart is being ripped apart.Thank you for the prayers and well wishes.

[Becca]

Caroline You have been in my prayers for quite a long time now.May you be comforted knowing others are praying & care for you.Change is hard for people I think.Praying you feel comfort & can have peace.Hugs & prayers Becca

[Marilynsgrammy]

Caroline, please find a support group or church in your area. talk with someone who will listen. I wish I knew where in Missouri you were I would google it for you.

Please don't sit home. be around people. You've had a lot of losses in a row, and you've had to completely change your lifestyle.

while it's necessary to grieve please also take some time for yourself. If you don't take care of yourself no one else will.

hugs and prayers to you
Chriss

[WeeOne]

Caroline- Nothing can take away your memories!

I must have missed a Post. I don't remember reading that you had to move.

Some people just don't get it. Please share with us. You have my prayers.
Lyn

[billizzy]

Caroline come daily to our daily devotion here in chit chat if you can. My dear friend just buried her husband yesterday and I so worry for her. Like you its her friend and confidant and now he is gone. Your in my prayers. Hugs

Izzy

[purrfect-lady]

Caroline, I DO understand. I have been in your shoes - twice - and it's kind of like you are in a bubble and life goes on around you. and it's hard to understand how that can be. I even had to restart my life in a new home. Everything we owned was gone. It took some time to get my feet under me again, emotionally and practically. I am sorry you have to move so quickly after your loss. Perhaps in time, you will be able to come to look at it as a new beginning but for now I know it hurts. I hope your family and friends are surrounding you with love and support. And in time, please consider grief counseling. I refused it for so long until I could no longer function. I gave in, made that call, and in four months I was a new person with a new outlook. It didn't mean that I didn't still love and miss my husband(s), but it helped me to find my way though the darkness. I remember my little 8-yr old DD, Autumn, once found me crying. She patted my back and said so soothingly, "Mom, I know our old life is gone but that doesn't mean it can't be good again one day." Such wisdom from one so young. Prayers for you, Caroline, that you, too, will soon find your way. God bless.

Mary

[QuiltGram8]

God Bless You, I want to add my sympathy. This is a great group to give support.
Hugs
Vel

[velvet]

You have a soft place to land, and that is here. You have the shoulders to cry on and the hugs to surround you with your unseen sisters to hold on to. Everyone is behind you, you are not alone. I'm sorry that your family feels you should "snap out of it". People like that are more damaging than helpful-limit your time around them. I wish I lived closer to you so I could hug you in person. Please post often, you are important!!
Diane

[patches4]

Caroline 1947

We are here for you. Keep talking to us and let us help too.
Here in Joliet, Illinois we have a Joliet Hospice center and they have someone call to see how we were doing and even offered counseling many times. Perhaps a Hospice home near you could help too. Must you move now??
Unless moving is an only option of survival right now please don't take that on by your self now. Things are just overwhelming right now and you can't see anything clearly. What helps me is this,
make a list of everything you think must be done right now.
Then that will be written down and you don't have to constantly remember everything. Add to the list as necessary.
Next, for today choose some things you can do or start doing. It does not hurt to take all day on one things it happens. Also if you are making a call for instance try to get the name of the person you talked to write it down and when the call is over write yourself a note with the date, person talked too and the information you got and the message of how to handle it. Then keep that with the item you were calling about like life insurance credit card statement or the like, and place it in a file folder to return to in about a week or more if you have not heard back and with the message attached you will know just what you discussed and will be able to continue.
Also keeping a daily journal will keep things straight for you when you need to look back.
You are a strong person, you were a wonderful wife to your husband and you were strong, loving and caring while he was ill. You are the same person. You worked with him a long time and you will recall how to do things and perhaps do things in the same way he did and if you do the bills a little bit different than him it is okay he always knew you were strong and caring and he would want you to carry on too. You miss him because you loved each other. But you can do everything you did before it may take a bit longer but that's okay. Ask, ask questions how to do something. Many people are around to help. Ask us the forum members enough of us can help too all you have to do is send us a PM hit the envelope next to our names for help
I am sorry family is not helping. Do you have a friend near by who has lost a spouse too perhaps there may be help.
My friend, just check in with us so we can help. Sometimes getting started is the hardest thing to do.
We love support and hug you. keep in touch,
Love and Hugs,
TinaB
Patches4

[JayKay]

Caroline

I add my concern for you....sending prayers for strength ......hoping you will find your way in this stressful time.

We are here to listen and offer a shoulder for you at anytime. Please know that your family is dealing with this tragic event also......hopefully they will realize the added stress they are putting you under and stop.

It will be difficult to look at this as a beginning instead of an end......day by day....

Hugs and comfort


Joyce