SUPPER CLUB - Friday, Feb 9th
Posted: Fri Feb 09, 2018 3:31 am
Good morning!
Chilly, but dry! Yay, us!! So many things in the yard are starting to bud. Spring isn't far!
Our meeting with Megan went so-so. She says they feel badly about the negative and expensive impact Vicki is having on our lives. Very nicely and sweetly I said I understood how difficult Vicki is for the kids to care for, and so they simply stay away but pointed out that we are stuck here! We also discussed them going to court to get legal guardianship and we assured her that we would testify to Vicki's unstable mental state. And I reminded her that GHPD has several reports on Vicki and said they would be available if/when the family ever goes to court. Ditto the Sheriff's deputies. The cops told us this.
We said Vicki's living conditions, physical and mental states are unsafe for her and are going to get nothing but worse. Megan once told us because they aren't there most of the time that we are their eyes and ears to their mom. I pointed out that since Vicki won't even let us on the property that if she fell and broke her leg, we'd never know it and she wouldn't be found until the kids' next visit - which could be a full week. It's happened before and Vicki laid there for 10 hours before she got help.
But we told her the worst for us right now is the garbage situation - that it's intolerable and that HAD to change. She said she would look into getting her a composting bin, though there's no guarantee she'll use it.
So all in all, it was a friendly, compassionate meeting and hopefully something will come from it. Megan did not ask for more patience on our part. I believe she realized that our patience ran out when we wrote that letter. She feels frustrated because at this point, she can't force her mom to do anything and Vicki resists anything sane. We again pushed the idea of going to court. In fact, we circled back to that about 4 times so hopefully it's sinking in as a viable option. I'm not holding my breath but I do have a glimmer of hope that they will do something.
Vicki's mother and her brother both have/had Huntington's and neither of them showed this crazy beligerance so I'm thinking Vicki's been a bit this way all her life and we never picked up on it.
We saw Megan was wearing an engagement ring and asked about it. She is marrying her boyfriend of 20 years, Ben. Vicki hates Ben and won't allow him on the property. (Actually, Vicki hates just about everybody now). Megan said Vicki would be at their wedding next Nov. She doesn't know what to expect from her mom but she's not going to worry about it though she does expect a scene.
So - to make a short story long - that's what happened yesterday. Pretty much nothing and no promises were made and Scottie is still being walked in our own yard on a leash. But at least he's not eating anything he shouldn't. And the family knows we have had enough.
CHICKIE - So, if Doyal decides to do this surgery - and it sounds like he has - is he going for pre-op counseling, diet, etc? And where will this all be done? Joplin? Parsons? Perhaps Seattle???
JANA - how is the dress coming along? I made one similar once for Lara only no pantaloons. But I did make a white pinafore and embroidered a reindeer on it (it was a Christmas dress). Both of my girls wore it a lot. Is the bathroom ready to use yet??
TINA - Glad to see you here! You've worked so hard for your dad! You need a few days rest. I'm sure he's appreciative.
BECCA - how is Asa doing? And your friend? Didn't a truck just tear up your yard last year? Why is your son having furniture delivered to your house? Yes, my sister and I have had our moments over the years BUT IT WAS NEVER MY FAULT! LOL! We're better now though. And we love her hubby. And it will be so nice to have her support while our brother goes through this. Al's wife, Barb, is such an emotional mess and Al's surgery is all about her. So it will be nice to have Tina and Imitation Al here as we all try to deal with Barb. Families!!
IRISH - my feet got cold just reading your post of all the snow and chill at your house!! Brrr!! I have obscure relatives and also some friends who live in Rochester. In fact, NY and PA are riddled with my obscure relatives! I would be there, too, if Grandpa Austin hadn't up and moved here. How is Scout doing?
BECKY - I love carpets! I am always in my sox and love walking on my carpets! I grew up with bare floors and always wished for carpeting. Now I have it and am a happy rug-walker!
Supper. Guess I'll be needing to cook tonite. I took out a couple of chops. Not sure yet just how I'll cook them or what I'll put with them, but probably potatoes of some sort. Maybe scalloped. and salad.
Got ideas for your supper yet?
Chilly, but dry! Yay, us!! So many things in the yard are starting to bud. Spring isn't far!
Our meeting with Megan went so-so. She says they feel badly about the negative and expensive impact Vicki is having on our lives. Very nicely and sweetly I said I understood how difficult Vicki is for the kids to care for, and so they simply stay away but pointed out that we are stuck here! We also discussed them going to court to get legal guardianship and we assured her that we would testify to Vicki's unstable mental state. And I reminded her that GHPD has several reports on Vicki and said they would be available if/when the family ever goes to court. Ditto the Sheriff's deputies. The cops told us this.
We said Vicki's living conditions, physical and mental states are unsafe for her and are going to get nothing but worse. Megan once told us because they aren't there most of the time that we are their eyes and ears to their mom. I pointed out that since Vicki won't even let us on the property that if she fell and broke her leg, we'd never know it and she wouldn't be found until the kids' next visit - which could be a full week. It's happened before and Vicki laid there for 10 hours before she got help.
But we told her the worst for us right now is the garbage situation - that it's intolerable and that HAD to change. She said she would look into getting her a composting bin, though there's no guarantee she'll use it.
So all in all, it was a friendly, compassionate meeting and hopefully something will come from it. Megan did not ask for more patience on our part. I believe she realized that our patience ran out when we wrote that letter. She feels frustrated because at this point, she can't force her mom to do anything and Vicki resists anything sane. We again pushed the idea of going to court. In fact, we circled back to that about 4 times so hopefully it's sinking in as a viable option. I'm not holding my breath but I do have a glimmer of hope that they will do something.
Vicki's mother and her brother both have/had Huntington's and neither of them showed this crazy beligerance so I'm thinking Vicki's been a bit this way all her life and we never picked up on it.
We saw Megan was wearing an engagement ring and asked about it. She is marrying her boyfriend of 20 years, Ben. Vicki hates Ben and won't allow him on the property. (Actually, Vicki hates just about everybody now). Megan said Vicki would be at their wedding next Nov. She doesn't know what to expect from her mom but she's not going to worry about it though she does expect a scene.
So - to make a short story long - that's what happened yesterday. Pretty much nothing and no promises were made and Scottie is still being walked in our own yard on a leash. But at least he's not eating anything he shouldn't. And the family knows we have had enough.
CHICKIE - So, if Doyal decides to do this surgery - and it sounds like he has - is he going for pre-op counseling, diet, etc? And where will this all be done? Joplin? Parsons? Perhaps Seattle???
JANA - how is the dress coming along? I made one similar once for Lara only no pantaloons. But I did make a white pinafore and embroidered a reindeer on it (it was a Christmas dress). Both of my girls wore it a lot. Is the bathroom ready to use yet??
TINA - Glad to see you here! You've worked so hard for your dad! You need a few days rest. I'm sure he's appreciative.
BECCA - how is Asa doing? And your friend? Didn't a truck just tear up your yard last year? Why is your son having furniture delivered to your house? Yes, my sister and I have had our moments over the years BUT IT WAS NEVER MY FAULT! LOL! We're better now though. And we love her hubby. And it will be so nice to have her support while our brother goes through this. Al's wife, Barb, is such an emotional mess and Al's surgery is all about her. So it will be nice to have Tina and Imitation Al here as we all try to deal with Barb. Families!!
IRISH - my feet got cold just reading your post of all the snow and chill at your house!! Brrr!! I have obscure relatives and also some friends who live in Rochester. In fact, NY and PA are riddled with my obscure relatives! I would be there, too, if Grandpa Austin hadn't up and moved here. How is Scout doing?
BECKY - I love carpets! I am always in my sox and love walking on my carpets! I grew up with bare floors and always wished for carpeting. Now I have it and am a happy rug-walker!
Supper. Guess I'll be needing to cook tonite. I took out a couple of chops. Not sure yet just how I'll cook them or what I'll put with them, but probably potatoes of some sort. Maybe scalloped. and salad.
Got ideas for your supper yet?
